Answer questions privately. See only where you match. Finally talk about the things you've both been curious about—without the fear of saying them first.
Question 12 of 35
I'd enjoy a long massage as foreplay
You've been together for a while. Things are good. But there's this thought you've had—something you're curious about, something you'd like to try.
You almost bring it up. But then you think: what if they think it's weird? What if they say no? What if it makes things awkward?
So you don't say anything. And maybe they don't either. And both of you go on not knowing that you might want the same thing.
This is the vulnerability gap. And it's why so many couples never discover what they're both curious about.
Partner A thinks:
"I've been curious about trying something new... but what if they think I'm weird for suggesting it?"
Partner B thinks:
"I wonder if they'd be into this thing I read about... but I don't want to make them uncomfortable."
Mutual removes the risk from honesty. Here's how it works:
You and your partner each answer questions about what you're into, curious about, or not interested in. Your individual answers are completely private—always.
You only see results where you both said "yes" or "interested." If one of you said no, that question simply never appears. No rejection. No awkwardness.
Use your matches as a starting point for real conversations. Try new things together. Check back in as you both grow and change.
Here's the key insight: you're both answering honestly because you know a "no" from either of you makes the question disappear. There's no downside to honesty.
Your partner will never see something you said yes to if they said no. It's mathematically impossible.
Not sure? Say "interested." If you both do, it shows up with a note: "You're both curious—talk about it."
Update your answers anytime. What you're curious about today might be different in six months. That's normal.
You both said yes
You're both curious—talk about it
Things you didn't match on stay completely hidden. No hurt feelings.
Everything about Mutual comes from how we think about relationships and communication.
The healthiest relationships are built on honest conversation. But some conversations are harder to start than others. We make the hard ones easier.
You can only be truly honest when you feel safe. That's why your individual answers are yours alone—your partner sees matches, never your raw responses.
Our goal isn't to keep you on Mutual forever. It's to help you build communication habits that eventually make us unnecessary. That's success.
Simple tools designed to help you discover, communicate, and grow as a couple.
Start with the basics—satisfaction, touch, positions—and go deeper as you both feel comfortable. Categories unlock naturally based on your interests.
See everything you've both said yes or interested to. Star the ones you're most excited about. Signal when you're ready to try something.
Your answers paint a picture. See where you fall on different spectrums, discover patterns in what you're drawn to, and understand your compatibility at a glance.
Relationships evolve. What you're curious about changes. Mutual grows with you—quarterly check-ins help you revisit and rediscover.
Hear from people who've used Mutual to open up new conversations.
"We've been married 8 years and thought we knew everything about each other. Turns out we were both curious about the same things but neither of us wanted to bring it up first. Mutual fixed that in one evening."
"The 'interested' option is genius. I wasn't sure about some things, but knowing my partner was also curious made it feel safe to actually talk about it. We've tried two new things and both were great."
"I love that it's not about finding problems—it's about discovering possibilities. The whole tone is warm and judgment-free. We do the quarterly check-in together now and it's become something we look forward to."
A note about trust, money, and what you can expect from us.
Here's the thing: Mutual is new. We're a small team building something we believe in, and right now, it's completely free.
That won't last forever. At some point, we'll need to charge money to keep the lights on, pay for servers, and keep improving the product. That's just reality.
But here's what I can promise you:
We will never sell your data. Ever. Your intimate information will never be used for advertising, sold to third parties, or monetized in any way other than the subscription you choose to pay for. This isn't negotiable.
If you join now, you keep what you discover. Everything you unlock during our free period—your matches, your categories, your progress—stays yours forever. When we eventually introduce paid plans, you'll only pay for new features and new categories we add later.
We'll always be transparent. When pricing comes, you'll know well in advance. No surprises, no dark patterns, no manipulative tactics. Just honest communication—which is kind of our whole thing.
Thanks for being here early. We won't forget it.
End-to-end encryption. No data sales. Delete anytime with one click.
Join free now, keep everything you unlock. Forever.
$5/month for both of you. No per-person charges.
We make money from subscriptions, not your attention.
Join now during our founding period and lock in benefits forever.
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Never. Your partner only sees questions where you both said "yes" or "interested." If you said yes to something and they said no, that question never appears for either of you. It's mathematically impossible for them to see your individual responses.
You can update any answer at any time. If you change from "yes" to "no," that match simply disappears. If you change from "no" to "interested," it might create a new match if your partner was already interested. People change—we built for that.
Not at all. Many of our most enthusiastic users have been together for 10+ years. In fact, long-term couples often have the most to discover—there's just more that hasn't been said yet.
Your answers are encrypted at rest and in transit. We use secure, privacy-focused infrastructure. We don't sell data, we don't show ads, and you can delete your entire account with one click at any time.
Founding members join during our free launch period. When we introduce paid plans, everything you've already unlocked stays free forever. You'll only pay if you want access to new categories and features we add later.
Mutual works great in any mobile browser—just visit the site and add it to your home screen. We're exploring native apps for the future, but the web experience is fully featured and designed for mobile.
It's a gentle way to tell your partner you're open to trying something—without having to say it out loud. When you're both ready, you'll see it on the match. No pressure, just a soft signal.
Because that's what it's all about—discovering what you mutually want. The name reflects our core promise: you only see things you both are interested in. It's mutual or it's hidden.
It takes five minutes to set up. You might be surprised what you find.
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